Date : April 18, 2015
A look at the dating game for the older, wiser individual.
The dating game can be an exciting adventure when you are young, but mature dating is, in a sense, a better game. You are older, wiser, more mature and more at ease with yourself. You more than likely know what you want out of life and have a good idea of how to get it.
Mature dating is an avenue that is worth exploring if you find yourself single and looking for a partner.
A mature individual has is generally more self-confident and at ease with who they are and where they are in their lives. You may find that they are also more straight forward about what they need or want out of life. Younger people who venture into the dating game are often uncertain about what they expect of the dating experience and may even find themselves back-pedalling when things do not work out as they envisioned.
Mature dating rules out a lot of the games played by younger people.
The mature dater will let their partner know what they are looking for with far more candour than a younger individual might. This is not to say that maturity is relative only to age. On the contrary.
There are many young people out there who display a marked degree of maturity when compared to their older counterparts.
Taking a mature approach to dating, no matter your age, is always a wise decision. If you have recently ended a relationship, give yourself time to process what has gone before, allow yourself time to grieve and to heal from the experience. Many people do not allow themselves this time and immediately dive into the next relationship, fearful of being alone. Particularly important is to give yourself time to recover from a long term relationship or marriage in which you had vested interests.
Many go the rebound route, but this is a dangerous emotional journey in which you may not only hurt yourself, but the person you rebound with. Mature dating means taking a level-headed approach to relationships. Take stock of your expectations, goals, dreams and desires.
What do you expect to gain from the overall dating experience? Are you looking for a friend, a lover, a husband or wife, or just someone to enjoy the occasional dinner or movie with? Once you have decided for yourself what you are looking for, it makes it that much easier to be selective in the dating process.
Mature dating can be a mindset as opposed to an age group. Remember that a relationship is made up of two people. Sometimes it makes sense to look at a relationship not from the perspective of what can the other person offer me, but rather, what can I bring into the relationship?
A positive approach to mature dating entails the mindset that you want to create a working and harmonious relationship with another human being and how best to go about doing so.