Date : April 18, 2015
A look into the subtle art of understanding dating and the human male.
Dating men can be a fun and enjoyable experience provided you approach the experience with an open mind and a calm demeanour. Men are just as sensitive emotionally and just like women, they worry about whether their date will like them or whether they will be rejected or not.
Just like women, men can be nervous and for all that aeons of social conditioning has made men feel that they have to project a persona of infallibility, strength and quiet confidence, they are just as prone to the jitters as we women. Dating men is something that you should approach with a light-hearted attitude.
A date is really an introduction, a way to get to know someone better and to give you both a chance to, for want of a better term, check each other out. Going into a date expecting immediate fireworks and magical romance is going to leave you, most likely, feeling disappointed.
You may find out after a few dates that you and your would-be suitor are not compatible in a number of areas, whether that concerns your religious views, your feelings about children (to have them or not), your political ideas or even your attitude to family. A few dates does not a relationship make, so take your time in getting to know the new person who has walked into your life.
There is a 50/50 chance he may well just walk right back out again or if you are lucky enough to find someone who sparks your interest and vice versa, he may just stay awhile. Trust your gut instinct as you get to know him better. Do not be too aggressive and allow him to initiate contact, in small things like calling you first, or inviting you out on a date.
Man is by nature a hunter and there is little excitement or challenge for him if the prize he is after is calling him ten times a day to check in on him, or to invite him out everywhere. Like it or not, ladies, being too aggressive or clingy may well scare a man into running for the hills.
The other and equally undesirable turn of events is a man who smothers you. Be wary of a man who is too demanding of your time, who tries to control you from the get-go by keeping tabs on what you are doing, who you are doing it with and so forth. If you meet a man who wants to know where you are every minute of the day before you’ve even made it to date number six, be very, very wary.
Dating men is a way to seek a partner that is most suited to you and what you need in a companion. Look for traits that you consider necessary in someone you want to spend a lot of time with. Every woman is different, but such staples as generosity of spirit, kindness, a compromising nature, a positive attitude and a sense of humour can go a long way.