Date : April 18, 2015
A look into the dating services that are available to you locally and how to find them.
If you are finding that the dating scene in your local area has become somewhat humdrum, why not look into a local dating website? You may find that many other locals in your area are listed on the same site as you and you have an opportunity to meet many more people via this medium.
To search for a locally available dating website that provides access to other local users, simply key in your search criteria. Start with something simple, like “Dating Johannesburg” or Dating Cape Town” or even “dating South Africa” and see what your search engine comes up with.
You will be surprised at the variety of websites that are available for local users. Now let the fun begin! Setting up a profile is usually an easy and self explanatory process. You’ll be asked to upload a recent photograph and some current information about yourself as well as statistics including your ethnicity, age, sex, height, weight and so forth.
The fun begins when you start entering your search criteria. Many a dating website will offer you the option to search by area or to search within a certain distance. Say you are looking for a partner that lives within 80km of your location, or for a partner who lives in your suburb… the wonder of the Internet now makes this kind of search possible.
Search criteria is very individual and no two people will search for the same thing. The convenient thing is that you can stipulate ranges, so for example, you can state that you are looking for a man with a height range of 5″7′ to 6″0′ and the search engine on the dating website will only match you to individuals who are listed as being in that height range.
The disadvantage is, of course, that your perfect match might just be 6″1′ and because that height is not included in your search criteria, his profile will be overlooked. Such is life! So do not be too specific when it comes to aspects like height or eye colour, unless these things are non-negotiable to you. Again, each person will have individual needs that are either flexible, or not. You must decide where you are willing to compromise and where you draw the line.
Important factors to consider are whether your ideal partner is single, divorced, still married, has children or not, wants children or not… these are important factors to consider when looking for a potential partner. If you want children and your partner does not, then this may cause strife in the relationship. Knowing this sort of information from the very beginning can help you decide whether to pursue a relationship or not.
The wonderful things about having a local dating website to access is that you can meet people in your area. There is nothing more disheartening than meeting the perfect girl, only to find that she lives a continent away and is unwilling to relocate. So thank your lucky stars that modern technology has invented the dating website to make your dating life easier.
How Best To Use Dating Personals
Date : April 18, 2015
Enjoy an informative look into how to post an advertisement in a dating personals column or website that will meet with a positive response.
For some people the search for love and romance is unsuccessful and spending countless hours in noisy crowded bars or nightclubs simply loses its appeal. It can be difficult to meet new and interesting people in an overcrowded setting where the music is too loud and everyone has had too much alcohol. For some this is a great formula to meet others, but if this is not for you then you might consider dating personals.
The various avenues to this sort of partner search are almost endless. Dating personals can be found in your local newspaper, in magazines and most popularly, on the Internet. You can access any of these resources, though most newspaper and magazines will ask a small fee to place an advert in their dating columns.
This is not necessarily the case for all publications and you will find many online sites that will offer free opportunities to place and advert. The decision to take this step is an easy one, but what is your next step? Putting together an advert for a dating column can be quite daunting.
What do you say? What information do you include? You usually have only a few lines in which to state what it is you are looking for. By their nature, “dating personals” are brief. The safe route is to begin by stating your age and sex and perhaps a personal reference.
So you may begin by writing, “Fun-loving 23 year old Indian guy -” and then progress on to what sort of person you would like to respond to the advert. This is entirely up to personal choice and preference. You might say, “Fun-loving 23 year old Indian guy seeks a lady of similar age and background to enjoy evenings out with a view to romance.”
This entry is followed by a contact number. Some services will use a telephone service, so that you do not have to disclose any personal information and this is done with your safety and privacy in mind. Dating personals are open to anyone and everyone, so it makes sense to take certain precautions when it comes to safe guarding your personal information.
Many people will use pseudonyms. A pseudonym is, quite simply put, a false name. Choosing your pseudonym can be a fun process and may be in reference to a hobby that you enjoy or it may be connected to what you do for a living or even make a reference to your appearance.
You can submit your advert with a name like, “greeneyes27” or perhaps “scubadiver” or how about “gothicgirl”. Be creative and imaginative when you choose your pseudonym. The pseudonym is an introduction to who you are and what you represent and you can see the difference in reaction one may have to a name like “romanticgirl” as opposed to “racerboy19” or “evilgenius”. Take time to pick a name that appeals to you and remember, there is certainly nothing wrong with choosing “Steve35” if that is, indeed, your name and age.
What Is A SoulMate?
Date : April 18, 2015
This is a timeless question and a quest embarked upon by many; the search for a soul companion to share your life and dreams.
The concept of a soulmate has existed in the mind of man from his earliest origins. Ancient man believed that the soul was cloven in two at its creation and that these two halves were went out into the world to learn and to grow. Once they find one another again, man will be whole and complete with a wealth of experiences to share with his other half.
The concept has been romanticized in many cultures and some fantastical qualities have been assigned to soulmates. The belief is that one will experience instant recognition of your other half upon meeting. Think Romeo and Juliet without the bad ending. A soulmate is defined as another person who makes an instant connection with you on a deeper level.
This person will understand your motivations and be able to key into you on an emotional level. A soul mate will accept you with unconditional love and will return that love without reservation. It is considered a very pure kind of love. Some are jaded and do not believe in the concept of soul mates, but others hang onto the belief that they exist and will settle for nothing less than a soul mate connection.
Finding your soul mate is really up to divine timing. To be in the right place, at the right moment is a feat that can only be achieved by forces beyond our understanding. The two souls have to be ready to embrace this type of deep abiding love with open hearts and open minds.
Many people mistake soul mate relationships for something else. A soul mate’s love is unconditional. They do not love you because you are the director of a large corporation, are wealthy, live in a fine house in the most upmarket area in Johannesburg or because you have a parking garage filled with exotic cars. A soul mate connection goes beyond material pursuits.
Soul mates share a unique connection and will often know what the other person is going to say before they say it. They will do peculiar things like finish one another’s sentences or will be able to anticipate the other person’s needs. Soul mates give of themselves freely to the other person.
Many people seek this type of connection or relationship, but are not ready to truly accept it into their lives. To be able to attract this kind of connection with another living soul, you have to have a degree of enlightenment, a degree of maturity on a soul level.
Be open to love, forgive the petty things, look for the best in people and approach your life with a positive attitude and you may find that your soulmate is just around the next corner. How will you know them when you see them? This is something unique to each person, but I can guarantee that at your first meeting, you will feel a sense of recognition and as though you have known them all your life, even though you have just them.
What You Need To Know About Senior Dating
Date : April 18, 2015
An informative look at dating for over 50’s who are still looking for love and romance.
Life is an amazing journey with many twists and turns that can, at times, be entirely unexpected. For some the road to romance is not one travelled in their younger years. For others, they have faced the loss of a loved one or have endured the disappointment of divorce.
Being single does not have to be a permanent state of being and senior dating is something that you may well want to look into.
Older members of society can now enjoy the benefits of dating services that cater specifically to their age group. Though this may seem rather obvious, a person is likely to have more in common with someone of a similar age group than to someone far younger or older, but this is certainly not a rule. Young and old alike enjoy the experience of dating.
Senior dating holds all the joys and pitfalls that dating amongst younger people entails. There is one benefit to dating for seniors today and that is the introduction of online dating. In the past dating was limited to location, to friends of friends, to random meetings or perhaps approached by joining a local club or taking up a hobby to meet like-minded people.
Thanks to the modern convenience of the Internet, dating is now very accessible and in most cases, is a completely free service. If you have computer access and an Internet connection, you can easily browse hundreds of dating sites until you find one that is suited to your needs. After that it is simply a matter of registerng on the dating site and setting up your personal profile.
The advantage here is that many sites cater specifically to your select age group, making it far easier to find someone who you might have interests in common with. You can easily search through a vast database of other singles. Online senior dating has become so popular that the member lists of these sites increases daily.
It is a great way to meet new people from the comfort of your own home. You can easily decide whether you want to take the step of meeting someone new by chatting with them online. Most senior dating websites have built in chat features that make communication easy and safe, meaning that you do not have to divulge personal information like your e-mail address or telephone number.
No matter your age group, it makes sense to exercise caution when dating someone new. Use common sense and spend some time communicating with them via the dating site. Do not hesitate to ask questions and to get to know more about them before you take the next step of either giving them your contact telephone number or agreeing to meet for a date.
If you agree to go on a date, make sure you meet in a relaxed public venue where you can easily leave should you feel uncomfortable or decide that you do not wish to pursue the relationship further. Senior dating should be a fun experience, so approach it with an open mind and a positive attitude.
What To Expect At Online Dating Sites
Date : April 18, 2015
Hang onto your hat, you maybe in for a bumpy ride! Online dating sites are the wave of the future, some surfing may be required.
Online dating sites are the modern way of connecting with people not only in your local area, but all over the world. The interface is so easy to use that anyone can easily set up a profile in a matter of minutes and can start enjoying the many benefits of online dating.
You may well be overwhelmed with the sheer variety of online dating sites available today. Each year more are founded and the number of members are growing exponentially. You will be glad to know that many long lasting relationships have come from random meetings on online dating sites.
In the recent past many viewed online dating sites with suspicion. Due to the very nature of the Internet it is very easy to upload whatever information you wish with little or no measures in place to ascertain whether your details are correct or not. Yet, this attitude is changing.
More and more often you hear stories of successful relationships that have come from connecting via dating websites. This success is due to the fact that these websites have search criteria and often offer personality and compatibility tests to their members. This is a great way to search for potential partners. You simply key in the qualities that you are looking for and enable the search function, which brings up a list of possible matches.
Registration with most online dating sites is free and you are under no obligation to pay for any of the available services. It is a fun and easy way to meet lots of new people from every corner of the globe. What better way to learn about new cultures and people than by accessing the world wide web?
Today’s online dating sites offer the option of uploading photographs and offer the option for you to not only fill in information about yourself, but also give you the opportunity to define the sort of partner you are looking for. By way of this feature you can search for people via location, education, height, weight, ethnicity, eye colour, hair colour, hobbies and interests.
You are no longer restricted to only selecting from the dating pool in your local area and can now search far and wide for your ideal partner from the comfort of your own home. This is one of the great conveniences associated with online dating. Without ever leaving your home you can meet a broad variety of people.
Be prepared to meet people from all walks of life and also realize that not everyone you meet will be the sort you would normally gravitate towards. Just remember that online dating sites are open to all people and that you should approach new friendships with an open mind and a positive attitude. Exercise a few precautionary measures, like not divulging personal information like your home telephone number or your home address before you are completely comfortable with the idea of doing so.
8 Dating Tips To Remember
Date : April 18, 2015
A few helpful pieces of advice regarding the dating game.
Tip # 1 – Boost your confidence
The best dating tips will focus on improving your self-confidence and your image. Join a gym, start taking regular walks, or simply improve your eating habits. Improved fitness will have you feeling more confident about yourself in a relatively short time span.
Tip # 2 – Be well groomed
Take time with your appearance, make sure your hair is well cut and free of damaged ends, regardless of its length. Go for a make over or a manicure and update your wardrobe. Dating tips like these may seem simplistic, but they will go a long way to boosting your confidence and to creating a good impression with others.
Tip # 3 – Spoil yourself
As far as dating tips go, this one may be rather unconventional, but do something that makes you happy. This may be something like taking a trip to a destination you’ve always wanted to visit or something as simple as spoiling yourself with a spa day. Doing things that make you happy will fill you with a positive energy that will be clearly visible to others.
Tip # 4 – Decide what you want out of dating
Sit down and think about what it is that you hope to gain from the dating experience. Are you simply looking to meet new people or are you searching for your soulmate? Are you looking for something short term or are you dating with a view to finding yourself a bride or husband? Decide what you want out of the dating experience.
Tip # 5 – Broaden your social horizons
This is one of the dating tips that will help you to not only learn new things but may well bring you into touch with new and interesting people. Join a club or take up a new hobby that gets you out and socializing with people. There is a never ending range of possibilities to suit every person, whether you are an adrenaline junkie or a more sedate individual.
Tip # 6 – Prepare for possible rejection
You stand the very real possibility of meeting someone, liking them and having them not return your feelings or enthusiasm. This is part and part of dating and do not let a disappointment put you off dating in the long term.
Tip # 7 – Do not be too available
One of the most sacred dating tips that anyone can offer you is not to appear too available. If you create the impression that all you are doing is sitting around waiting for your new romantic interest to call, you may well lose their interest. It is not necessary to play mind games, but make it abundantly clear that you have a life of your own.
Tip # 8 – Beware of dating fatigue
Believe it or not, this is one of the most valuable dating tips. If you are finding that the dating routine is leaving you feeling disappointed or disheartened, take a break and centre yourself, re-evaluate your dating needs and look at the types of partners you are attracting in comparison to the type of partner you want to attract.
The Truth Behind Dating Partners
Date : April 18, 2015
An informative look at the dating game and at dating partners in general.
Dating partners are people just like you and I who are looking for someone to share their experiences with. Whether those experiences are simply to meet for coffee and conversation, to find an activity partner to do things with like hiking, travelling or crafts or perhaps to find a companion to walk life’s road with, is up to each individual’s preference.
There are many different kinds of dating partners and various kinds of people are looking for different things to fit into their lives and lifestyles. A dating partner can simply be a friend who you go to the movies with on a weekend, or they may be a person who, like you, enjoys a particular activity that none of your other friends are interested in.
There is nothing more rewarding than spending a few hours with another person who shares an interest in and enthusiasm for something that sparks your imagination. This does not mean that you should rule out romance in any way, shape, or form. Most people venture into the dating world in the hopes of finding a companion.
Some are seeking something more temporary and are simply looking for a casual sexual partner and that is perfectly fine so long as both parties are clear on what the other person wants. Communication between dating partners is key to circumvent any confusion or misunderstandings.
The dating game can be a minefield of wrong turns and misadventures, but you also stand a good chance of meeting some wonderful people and if things do not work out romantically, there is still a good chance that you may make a new friend. You may meet a dating partner through a friend, at a social event or even via the Internet. It is entirely possible that a new dating partner may arrive in your life via the most unlikely route, say through a family member’s introduction or through a work function.
Keep an open mind when embarking on a date with someone new. The best approach is to go out with a positive outlook, but with no expectations or preconceived ideas. The object of dating is to get to know the other person and to see if you are at all compatible. If you discover that after a few dates you do not see eye to eye on things, then move on until you meet someone that does bring out the best in you.
Dating partners can introduce you to new and exciting things and you will find that from every relationship, no matter how seemingly trivial, you will come away having learnt something. Approach a date with a light-hearted aspect and with a postive outlook. Leave all your negative baggage at the door and just enjoy the experience of getting to know somebody new.
The world is populated by 6 billion people and so it stands to reason that somewhere out there is the ideal dating partner for you. Go out there, have fun, be safe and above all, keep an open mind. You may soon find that your horizons are expanded by the new people coming into your life.
The Art Of Dating Women
Date : April 18, 2015
What do women really want when they agree to meet for a date? This age old question deserves an answer.
In an attempt to define the art of dating women one has to take a closer look at the typical human female of the species. No two women are alike and this leaves most men in a quandary over how to approach a woman that he feels drawn to. Any woman, no matter if she be old, young, reserved, spontaneous, a quietly spoken femme fatale or a rough and tumble biker babe, is going to appreciate being spoken to with respect.
A woman wants to be acknowledged, treated with kindness, affection and appreciation. These concepts may sound far too simple to be believable, but even in this modern age of the emancipated woman, being a gentleman and treating a lady with respect still goes a long way. Treat a woman like an equal and you will be pleasantly surprised by her reaction.
Women want to be around people who make them feel good about themselves. Indeed, I think every person wants this. Still, do not be afraid to compliment a woman on her appearance, on her taste in music, clothing, furniture, movies and so forth. A woman will be drawn to someone who can stimulate her intellect and make her laugh.
Engage a woman in witty conversation, discuss things that interest her, make an effort to find out what she is passionate about. Consideration is the key. This sort of approach is to be used within reason of course. Not every woman you meet is going to spark your interest intellectually but the goal when dating women is to find common ground.
A woman is not going to enjoy a lengthy diatribe about sports if this is not her sphere of interest. You may not feel inclined to discuss the benefits of hairspray for an hour and a half – another key is compromise. Find a subject you both enjoy. Dating women is not a science and the experience should be enjoyable for both of you.
Be honest. When you first begin dating women you might be tempted to spin tales about certain aspects of your life, but at the end of the day if the relationship progresses you may well be caught out in your lie. Be open-minded and if you find yourself faced with a subject that you do not know anything about, do not dismiss it off-hand.
This can be an extremely off-putting approach. Listen, learn and do not be afraid to admit your ignorance if you are faced with a topic you know nothing about. Your lady friend will most likely be happy to explain things to you, particularly if it is a subject of interest to her. You are never too old to learn something new.
Be generous. This does not mean that you should part with the paper in your wallet. Be generous with yourself. Listen, engage in the conversation, be easy and relaxed, laugh, make eye contact. During conversation momentarily touch her hand or arm to let her know that you are interested in what she has to say. Dating women should be an enjoyable experience for you both.
The How To’s Of Dating Online In South Africa
Date : April 18, 2015
A look at the dating scene via the Internet in South Africa and how you can join in on the fun!
Dating online in South Africa is an easy and fun process requiring little more than Internet access and a personal computer or cellular phone. If you have ever used a search engine you will know how easy it is to find an online dating website. Simply access your search engine and key in your search criteria.
A list of dating sites will come up and you can browse through the available options. Remember to specify that you are looking for dating online in South Africa! Dating has never been easier or more accessible. Your next step is to register on your chosen dating website.
This is usually free of charge and very easy. You will be asked to register a username and then to create a password. Most sites will require that you verify an e-mail address. The process is usually instantaneous, so check the e-mail account of the address that you provided and click the verification link. Some sites may require that you use a verification code to access their website. This is a once off process.
Once you have done this you can move on to creating your profile. the website interface will usually be quite self explanatory, but if there is anything that you are unsure of you can always contact the site administrators to assist you. Creating your dating profile is usually easy and fun.
To begin dating online in South Africa all you need to do is upload some basic information and a recent photograph of yourself. Be honest as you fill in personal details. There will be standard basics, including physical characteristics like age, height, weight, hair colour and length, eye colour and body type.
Next you will be asked to fill out a section specifying your sex and your sexual preferences, i.e. whether you are looking to meet men or women or both. You will likely be asked to list your interests and these can range from movies, to television shows, to books, crafts, hobbies and activities.
You will be asked to write a short introduction where you can tell others a little about yourself. There may be a range of tests you can take to determine your personality profile and each site will have its own variations of these types of tests. As you work through setting up your profile it will provide the search engine with more details, making it easier to find a match for you to explore dating online in South Africa.
From this point on you can begin searching the website for possible matches. Many will be listed in order of best possible match to least likely match, depending on your search criteria. Dating on line in South Africa has never been easier and plenty of sites now have built in chat features or mail systems whereby you can contact other users to leave messages or to show interest.
5 Tips For Singles Dating
Date : April 18, 2015
Tip # 1 – The Introduction
First impressions count and your initial introduction, particularly on an internet dating site, will be a deciding factor. Singles dating is pretty much a hit and miss game and a poor impression will not count in your favour.
Use a recent solitary photograph of yourself on the dating website. A photo of you with your ex-girlfriend or worse, with your ex-girlfriends face cut out of the picture, is not going to make a good impression. Steer clear of group photo’s, it makes it difficult to know who you are if they have never met you. Rather use a bad photograph of yourself than no photo at all!
Read their profile and make an effort to respond with a reference to something they have mentioned. A short sentence or two should be enough. If they respond, then take it from there, but do not write a novel length introduction – you will only be more disappointed if they do not respond. This may sound obvious, but use a spell checker if you are not good at spelling.
Tip # 2 – Flirting
Keep it light, fun and be subtle. Sexual advances made too early may well scare off a potential date, particularly if you are too graphic. There needs to be a mutual understanding between both parties, even if the goal is a simple sexual encounter, approach it with finesse.
Tip # 3 – What you need to know
Singles dating is about getting to know another person well enough to decide if you would like to meet them and then, if you would like to spend more time with them. Do not be afraid to ask questions about their viewpoints on anything and everything. This does not have to be in an interrogation style fashion, but merely as a way to learn more about them.
Tip # 4 – Playing it safe
Caution is warranted when traversing the world of singles dating. Do not be in a rush to divulge personal information, including your home address, telephone number or your place of employment. First get to know your date a little better and be sure you feel comfortable with them before you give them too much information about yourself.
If you at any time feel unsure, pressured, or uncomfortable during your singles dating experience, that is a warning sign that something is amiss. Trust your instincts, as your intuition will never steer you in the wrong direction. Do only what you feel comfortable in doing and do not be afraid to back out of a situation that makes you feel nervous.
Tip # 5 – Scare tactics
Sometimes we are blind to our own actions and when you are exploring the world of singles dating a few rules should be applied, particularly when it comes to safe topics. Do not discuss emotional wounds from a past relationship on the first date, nor should you focus on negative aspects in your life. This sort of information will very likely scare away a potential suitor. Keep things light, positive and your single dating experience should be a pleasant one.